What I've Learned So Far

As a woman in my mid 40's, there's some things that I have learned that I wish I had known when I was 20. But as they say, you can't go back...but maybe someone out there will heed my advice. I'll add more as they come to mind.

1. After high school, go to college and get a degree. Don't let family, friends or a boyfriend discourage you. There is always a way, financially, to get into college & in the end, any sacrifices will be worth it.

2. After college, rent or purchase your own place. I think you should live on your own, paying your own bills for at least 1 to 2 years prior to sharing a home with anyone else.

3. If you choose not to go to college...still move out and live on your own while working. You should not move from your parents home to another persons parents home.

4. When discussing marriage dreams with your boyfriend--make sure you agree on these points: children, religion, where to live, morals/values. You'd be incredibly amazed at how these things come up 'after' you get married. Assume nothing. You have to have that discussion before the marriage and you must agree.

5. Significant Other---better love him just as 'he is' because as he ages his hair will look more mature than he will act. You cannot change men, so don't waste your time and seriously, it is a waste of time. Save your 'martyrdom' for your children.

6. While still single, if there is something that you really want to do, do it. If he 'really is the love of your life'...he will be there in the end. If it is meant to be, it will be. Seriously.

7. Life gets complicated when children arrive. Count on yourself for protection from getting pregnant. No babies until you are in a loving marriage.

8. Talk to your grandparents and parents more and get lots of family history. You will need and want this information later when your children are growing up. So do it while you are still young and they can still remember.

9. Love yourself. Embrace yourself. Seriously, take care of yourself...it is amazing as to what you do in your wild youth comes back to haunt you when you turn 40.

10. Count only on yourself. Believe in yourself because if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will.